This last rule for 2018 graduates is very hard to swallow. I hope you might consider how this will assist you in relationships with those around (and above) you.
Rule #5 – Keep in the line and wait your turn.
Everyone cannot be first but your time will come.
Today, you are discovering painfully that the diet of generic specialness you were fed growing up will not sustain adult life. Everyone cannot be first, whether getting to the drinking fountain or going down the slide or making manager. You will be better than some people at certain things and not as good as others. Make peace with that reality and focus to achieve your own potential best.
Unlike in younger years, there are few trophies for just taking up space on a team or times when every person on staff is celebrated at the same time. Bosses need assurance you can fill the job requirements and earn your pay without constant praise and incentives. You may even be told you need to improve, learn more, listen to others, or correct mistakes. Keep trying; don’t give in to self-pity or complaining. Soon enough, you will be recognized and appreciated for your contribution and accomplishments.
Kindergarten was indeed a magical beginning to the world of education. Build on the foundation, graduates, keep learning, and live wisely. More elementary wisdom from Robert Fulghum (1986):
All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten
Most of what I really need
To know about how to live
And what to do and how to be
I learned in kindergarten.
Wisdom was not at the top
Of the graduate school mountain,
But there in the sandpile at Sunday school.
These are the things I learned:
Don’t hit people.
Put things back where you found them.
Clean up your own mess.
Don’t take things that aren’t yours.
Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody.
Wash your hands before you eat.
Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
Live a balanced life –
Learn some and think some
And draw and paint and sing and dance
And play and work everyday some.
Take a nap every afternoon.
When you go out into the world,
Watch out for traffic,
Hold hands and stick together.
Be aware of wonder.